The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Habit 1: Be Proactive

“Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that is why it comes first. It says, “I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I’m responsible for my own unhappiness. I am in the driver’s seat of destiny, not just a passenger.”

 Work from the Center of your influence and constantly work to expanding it. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen before taking action. To be proactive is to have self confidence in what you want to do. You do not wait for someone to hand you a job you go and you get it on your own you have to be positive about yourself in order to live life take control. To be proactive is to think of how not to fail have a backup plan don’t let problems arise. Proactive people know what tasks are priorities and which can wait. They eliminate any task that is unnecessary. They take interest in very extraordinary things that interest them.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

“Control your own destiny or someone else will.”(Clark Welch)

Start by taking control of your life. Have a clear understanding of what it is you want a clear destination. That way we make sure we are taking the right steps toward the right things. We sometimes work and work we get our selves busy but with all our victories and achievement’s we don’t stop and think is this what I am happy doing is this what I am going to do for the rest of my life. We should take control of our destiny think of our future have a plan of how we want it, instead of waiting for someone to make your future. You create your destiny not others. Don’t let some person your destiny was written already no you create it yourself not some one else.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

“Organize and execute around priorities.”

Put things first that are the most important priorities to your mission, observe the proper balance between production and building production capacity. Recognize the key roles that you take on in life, and make time for each of them. Do what is right for you first think of the things that you need to accomplish first before doing something else. Be positive that what you are doing is important and eliminate what is not. Think about you mission do whatever it takes to get there and go for it but have a plan in case you slip you have a plan be. Set goals that are important and meaningful.

Habit 4: Think win-win

“Think win-win or no deal.”

You must seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial to you.  In cases where there is no win/win achieved you must accept the fact that agreeing to make no win may be the best alternative. You must always reward yourself for a win in behavior as well as others for their efforts.  You must always reward yourself for trying to get the win/win and even more when you do succeed to getting it. Value and respect people by understanding a "win" for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way. In order to establish effective dependent relationships, we must commit to creating Win-Win situations that are equally beneficial and satisfying to each person. In solving for Win-Win, we must consider two things that a person can have respect and courage.

Habit 5: Seeking First to Understand, Then to Be understood

"Diagnose before you prescribe."
First seek to understand the other person, and only then try to be understood.  Effective listening is not simply echoing what the other person has said through the lens of ones own experience. Rather it is putting oneself in the perspective of the other person, listening emphatically for both feeling and meaning. Listen to understand the other person and be listened to later to be understood. understand another persons feelings and emotions. the other person should feel good after being herd and not being judged. Understand how people are to understand yourself in a better way. Be understood by understanding others. Make them feel good.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Four dimensions of self-renewal: Physical, mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional.

What this means is that you should be connected to yourself in many ways and in the four dimensions of self-renewal. You should be happy with yourself and who you are and if you don’t find yourself you will lose yourself and won’t be able to get up. Be true to yourself and others. Also this means to find yourself be someone new what you are really meant to be. The physical dimension meant to care for your body. The mental dimension is one of the most important because you have to maintain high levels of intelligence throughout life. The hardest dimension to do is the spiritual, because it takes time to do and we are mostly busy working or in school. It is hard to take some time to sit and think clearly when you have so much other things blocking you form having a clear mind. The emotional dimension should be easy for you will have to maintain good relationships with others and yourself.

Overall Reflection: My deepest thoughts on this is that these habits clearly will help me on my every day life by applying them in school in my personal life and in work.  I’m responsible for my own unhappiness. Work from the Center of your influence and constantly work to expanding it. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen before taking action.i will start by taking control of my life. Have a clear understanding of what it is I want a clear destination.Put things first that are the most important priorities to my mission, I must seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial to me and the other person.Understand the other person, and only then try to be understood. And most of all always sharpen the saw.

Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Dale Carnegie

Principle 1: Do not condemn, complain, or criticize

There is a time and place to bring to bear moral judgment, a form of criticizing that distinguishes between right and wrong.  In doing so, be certain that you have made yourself correct first then criticize through constructive feedback seeking to understand the conditions first. Criticism is pointless because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him attempt to justify himself. Dangerous because it wounds pride, hurts ones sense of importance, and produces resentment. It takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Try to figure out why they do what they do. From a purely selfish position, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others. Give second chances.

Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

“The big secret in dealing with people.”

Reflection: use some common sense by giving people what they desire they will do what you want them to do. So by giving someone what they want or teaching them how to get it they will do what you want them to do in return instead of forcing them to do what you want. People who are capable of seeing another’s perspective and see the inner working of another’s min never have to worry about the future. We have to appreciate our selves first in order to appreciate what others do for us. So when you make someone feel important they will give you something you want in return for the appreciation.

Principle 3: arouse to the other person an eager want.

“He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”

Everyone is only interested in what they want. The only way you can do this is by influencing someone to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. Let’s say tomorrow you want someone to do something for you. You have to pause for a minute before you speak and think about how to make the other person want to do it for you. The people that can do this are very successful in doing so and in doing so they have the world. Why you may ask it simple influencing other people to get what you want is making the other person want to get it for you.

Reflection 

These techniques will help me when I apply them to my daily life. How it will help me by already knows what to do to convince someone to get what I want and in the same way show them how to get what they want. It’s a win for both of us. This will help me by letting me have the world by not criticizing someone because it can make them resent themselves and think that they are not worth it no instead I will listen to what they want and show them how to get it in return I will want something done from them.  I will give second chances to those that have done wrong but they will have to do right by it. My thought about this is that if I use these techniques I will move forward with my life with no trouble.

Winter Break Days

The things that I did during winter break where not much I didn’t go out much the only places I went to were the mall and that is about it nothing interesting. I did watch some movies and shows most of the time on Netflix with my younger brother because I took care of him with my older sister. The movies that I watched were just random movies and I watched many shows on their. My family well my mom, sister, brother, and I really didn’t do much burring the break because my mom is mostly never around so we can’t go anywhere without her also because she is always working. I really wanted to go to big bear but my mom had to go to work the day we were going to go.so the only time we spent time together was when we went shopping and on Christmas we didn’t get any presents but the feeling of being with my family was great.

How To Win Friends and Influence People

“Six ways to make people like you”

Rule 1. Becoming genuinely interested in other people

“Do this and you will be welcome anywhere”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

“Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering.”

Reflection: I believe that by becoming more interested in what they do rather wanting them to become interested in you will make them your friends. You have to engage in the conversation listen to what they have to say, give your opinion and help out in any way possible easiest way to make a friend. If you want a friend you have to be willing to listen and not talk about yourself because they will just think that you are self-centered and people don’t like that. Asking questions about them and complementing them is such a nice way to get a friend and many more. Also this means to go out of your way to help others and not when it is convenient. Going out of your way will show others how great you are just don t brag about it. The thing you want to do is make someone now that you care about them and that you want to be their friend.

Rule 2. Smile

“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I’m glad to see you.”

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”

“It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”

Reflection: smile at people so that they can know that you like them as a friend. Smile because you are happy. Smile because no one can bring you down. Smile because it brings happiness to others. Smile every day to show the world that you can do anything. Smiling can make you forget that you were ever sad. Smiling makes you feel good about yourself. So if your ever sad turns that frown upside down, be happy for what you have and what you will accomplish in the future. People won’t want to be your friend if you’re always mad. I believe that showing someone how happy you are can bring them happiness to them with or make them laugh. Show people that you can bring a smile to them and in return they can bring you one.

Rule 3. Remember names

“A man’s name is to him is the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

“If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble.”

Reflection: Remembering someone’s name how will you address people. If you don’t remember your boss name then you won’t be able to address him in the proper manner. If you don’t remember someone’s name that person won’t be very pleased to here that you don’t know their name. Hearing someone say your name is the most pleasant thing to here but not if a person says it in an awful way. For me I find it a bit wired when I have to call another person by my name calling out some one by my name is wired but at the same time it is the easiest name to remember. I for instance know all my friends names but sometimes I can’t remember their name but its only because sometimes my memory fails me. I sometimes find it hard to pronounce some ones name but in time I get it right.

How To Remember Names

1. Pay attention. Repeat their name back to them once they provide it. This helps you lock it into your brain. Make remembering their moniker a priority. Repeat the name silently to yourself a couple of times.

2. Repeat names throughout the exchange. Repetition helps your brain form the connections necessary to retain information. As soon as you're introduced, say, "It's lovely to meet you, Jane." Refer to the person by name upon greeting and then repeat it again in parting.

3. Make mental associations. Make a visual connection with a person's name to something memorable in your world -- the more outlandish, the better. For example, if you meet someone named Jay who happens to be a music producer, visualize a blue jay at a mixing board. The humorous image will imprint his name and career onto your memory.

4. Study names in print. Use your eyes as well as your ears. When someone wears a name tag, for instance, look at the name tag as well as the face to create an association. As soon as you receive a business card, glance at the name and say, "Thank you, John."

5. Ask for clarification with difficult names. If a new colleague has a name that is difficult to pronounce or happens to mumble their introduction, simply ask him or her to repeat it. Then say it again yourself for verification. In addition to gaining clarity, the extra effort will speak to your attention to detail.          

6. If you forget a name, address it head on. If you absolutely can't remember a name, try to offer any information you can remember, such as where the two of you may have met. Alternatively, if you shake hands and introduce yourself, your contact will most likely follow suit.

If you think you know someone's name, but are unsure, venture a guess: "Bill, right?" Or you could simply apologize and say, "I'm sorry, I'm a little forgetful at the moment. Please remind me of your name." Don't worry, it happens to everyone.

Rule 4. Be a good listener. Encouraging others to talk about themselves.

“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”

“Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.”

Reflection: The rule states that you have to be more interested in other people’s problems. They don’t want to be hearing about your problems and bragging about yourself they want you to hear what they have to say and if you have any advice for them. People want others to be interested in them when you first meat them that is how you make friends or at least how you get them to be. Being a good listener is the most important part of making friends because they want you to hear what they say not just nod and say okay I see what is going on. People want you to hear what they say so that you can help them out. That is truly being a friend. When you don’t listen then they really won’t go to you for help they will think bad about you and go elsewhere. When you have a conversation you want to hear more about the other person’s life and their experiences and the you can talk about yours not before.
 5 Active Listening Tips

1. Stay focused, don’t judge

2. Really listen, don’t think about your similar experiences

3. Allow periods of silence

4. Repeat the other people’s words

5. Understand the other person’s emotions in their words

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man’s interest.

“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most

Reflection: what this means is that lets say for instance that you may sell insurance, but it is unlikely that it’s what your customers want to talk about all day. Football, on the other hand, might be a subject that they love to discuss. When you converse about something that they love, they learn to like you more. When it comes time to buy insurance, there is a pretty good chance that they will buy from someone they like. Play your cards right, and that just might be you. Also learning about a person's interests and passions and making that the topic of conversation will strengthen your bond with them immensely.  People will be enthusiastic to talk to you about their personal interests.  Not only will this reward you with the knowledge they share with you, but you will also benefit from the stronger relationship you've built with the person.  They are more likely to be there for you when you need it. So let’s say again that I’m in a party and don’t have any friends their I would come up to a person and ask for their name and ask them to tell me more about them in and I a short period of time I will soon enough gain their trust and they will be more open and I will have made a friend just by asking that person to talk about themselves.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.”

“Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”

Reflection: Compliment people on tasks they do well.  Make them feel like they are really doing something worth appreciating.  Show people you have trust and faith in them to get something done.  Show them you are confident in them.  They will light up with raised self-esteem and will become much fonder of you. For example when you tweet, tell your followers how important and valuable they are. Don’t puff them full of fluff, but be genuine and enthusiastic. Excitement and smiley faces may seem dorky, but there is almost never a compliment that is poorly received. Let your followers know that they are important. Make them feel important and appreciated. When you make someone feel good about themselves they will like you more because you are talking about them.25 ways to make someone feel special

     1. Make a note of the important events in her life and ask her how the events went.
2. Give a specific and genuine compliment.
3.Praise them in front of other people.
4.In a group setting, ask her to tell her favorite story.
5.If she’s telling a story to a group and she gets cut off for some reason, be the first person to ask her to continue telling it.
6.Ignore her tiredness. Nobody wants to be told that they have dark rings under their eyes or that they look like they just woke up.
7.After meeting someone new, follow up the next day with an email or handwritten note.
8.When you first call her on the phone, ask if it’s a good time for her to talk.
9.If, while talking on the phone, you hear something going on in the background, ask her if she needs to attend to it.
10.Don’t multi-task while you’re on the phone. She’ll be able to tell.

Reflection: I believe that to make a friend you should follow these rules. By following them you will make many friends and you can count on them for anything and they can count on you. All you have to do is be committed to the rules and pay attention to what the other person is talking about. Make them feel like you are interested in them talk about them not yourself. Make them feel wanted. You should really follow them because they are great I have many friends that I can count on because of this and I can truly say it is great. When I talk to them I make them feel good and they return the favor by doing the same and I’m very happy with the friends I have. I know that I will be using these rules for a long time to make new friends.

Google’s greatest invention

Google’s greatest invention yet project ara.so what is project ara it is a new phone that Google might take out to the market on the end of the year of 2015. This also means that the phone will not last for on or two year it will last for decades because the new invention is created to separate all the components that make up a phone in an in closed box but not any more if all goes well the new phone will have all of those components but they will be able to be replaced separately. So let’s say the their if anew upgrade of camera you will take the camera off and replace it for the new one and because It easily comes of and there will be no need to buy a new phone. The phones hardware is controlled by an android app that unlocks components that need replacing. Now this is cool because as I said the phone s hardware is separated as an individual and is put together as a Lego structure

“Crazy scale: 6 (Saving the planet from hundreds of tons of ewaste? Too cool.”

 Information Security Analyst

Duties and Responsibilities: Data security analysts, sometimes referred to as computer security specialists, operate an organizations information security, according to the BLS. Duties may include, installation and maintenance of security software, instructing computer users on security,  and ensuring networks are free of breaches. The BLS also noted that, with the increase of online and computer network attacks, the duties of data security analysts have also increased and broadened (www.bls.gov). For instance, they may be expected to compile data for cyber forensics following a breach. Additional duties might also include programming, system analysis and telecommunications.

Salary: Average salary $91,210 annually

Education: You must obtain by most a bachelors degree

I don’t want to study this career but I shore seems interesting.

The Six Attributes of High Achievers

1.Make no small plans 

Reflection: High achievers go big they don’t make small plans for the future they make big ones and don’t give up on them. High achievers go for the long run they want to make something out of their life and make big plans for it. For example I am not one of those kids that want to go to a state college. I want to go to a UC and that is my big plan I will work hard to get there and not give up because if I make one small decision not to go I will not succeed in my plans. “Make no little plans they have no magic to stir man’s blood.” This means to not make small plans in life they will not get you anywhere in life. Small plans will get you nowhere so I decided to make big plans in life I will go to a UC and be a doctor in the future I will not give up because I am a high achiever and not someone that will make small plans for my future.

2. Are willing to do what they fear

What this means is that you are willing to do what you fear the most. But you can’t conquer what you fear the most it without taking risks. You are willing enough to take those risks and conquer those fears. for example I want to be an OB/GYN in the future but I’m afraid that I will have people making me feel like I can never get there that is my fear. “You have to want it more than what you’re afraid of it.” So this means that I have to want my dreams more than what I’m afraid of it. People can’t conquer a fear if they do not want to conquer it unless they are willing to do so. What I will do in the future is ignore the people that want to bring me down and keep moving forward because if I don’t I will never get what I really want. Those people that bring you down really they only do those things because they wish that they had dreams that are very high.

3. Are willing to prepare

Reflection: What this means is that you should get excited for what you are becoming in life rather than what you have done during your lifespan. High achievers prepare for what they will become and not preparing will get you nowhere, if you only look at the things that you have done in the past you have to stop because unless you have a time machine you can’t change them or make them better. The only thing you would look back for is to get reference on the mistake in order to not make it again in the near future. And do shoot for the small things that you would do in life but the risky ones take chances prepare yourself for your future goals. “By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail.” This means that if you do not prepare for the future you will fail more than if you did prepare you will end up in bad places. But because you failed to prepare you probably were already with the wrong crowd. I for example will not let myself let things go I will prepare for what I have to do so that I can go to the best university possible and be a doctor.

4. Are willing to risk failure

Reflection: High achievers do not learn to fail their way to achievement. Like for example Thomas Edison didn’t give up after he fail the first time trying to invent a better light source  he kept on failing until he finally was successful. High achievers learn from their mistakes and if they fail once they know they will fail again but they don’t give up because they work their way up to achievement. This teaches us to look at depression, stress and other things in a more positive perspective. “If you want something you can have it, but only if you want everything that goes with it, including all the hard work and the despair, and only if you are willing to risk failure.”  Meaning that wanting something wont com easy you will fail all the time, no one is perfect so all the things that come with the things you want will come fast but last long if you let them, the only way to get rid of them is by working harder each time. Taking risks is a good thing when you are doing them for the right reasons.

5. Are Teachable

Reflection: A high achiever that is teachable spends his/her time seeking knowledge, spends time reading, observing and listening to those around them. High achievers are always trying to learn something new and make the best of their life. These people may sometimes see someone doing something that is right so they make it their own and do the same. I believe that those that are teachable will be doing great thing in life in the future. Those that are teachable will do anything in their power to be great. They will always be learning form someone or something to pass on them self’s what they learned to some one else that is teachable. I personally think that I am teachable and someday I will pass on my knowledge to someone that is willing to take on what I learned. “You must always be the apprentice even when you become the master.” This its self means that you will always be an apprentice because times change and even if you are a master you will learn something from them and take on their ideas about the subject.

6. Have heart

Reflection; High achievers have heart yes this is true but what we don’t know is that to gain that heart we have to go through conflict and stress. Yet at the same time we don’t know what the reason for this is and we wish to find out but cant. Having a great heart does mean to be to be good to others in any way possible. Giving back to the world does not make you have a great heart but believing in yourself will help. You just have to be at peace with your body, mind, and especially your spirit in order to have a great heart. “To be rich, is not what you have in your bank account, but what you have in your heart.” What this means to me is that being rich is not happiness but comfort for what you wish to have but you don’t know how to get. For example a rich man is not rich enough if he does not have a great heart that is what being rich really means having a family being true to yourself and everyone around you. Also you have to have the courage to follow your heart and be free from the bad influences.

Overall Reflection: What I feel is that I will apply all these attributes to my daily. These attributes will help be a more successful person in life. I will prepare for the future and I will fail in doing so but I will not give up because I will learn from failure. I feel that by having heart I will be able to apply these attributes and not fall into the wrong path. Furthermore I will concur my fears of being successful and achieving my dreams and proving those who doubted me wrong. I feel that if I don’t give up and I will be able to concur my dreams  I will learn along the way and be more knowledgeable in life learning from others and passing it on. Applying these attributes can make anyone a high achievers because you just have to be willing to put in the effort. You may think that this is not plausible but it is.