The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Habit 1: Be Proactive

“Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that is why it comes first. It says, “I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I’m responsible for my own unhappiness. I am in the driver’s seat of destiny, not just a passenger.”

 Work from the Center of your influence and constantly work to expanding it. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen before taking action. To be proactive is to have self confidence in what you want to do. You do not wait for someone to hand you a job you go and you get it on your own you have to be positive about yourself in order to live life take control. To be proactive is to think of how not to fail have a backup plan don’t let problems arise. Proactive people know what tasks are priorities and which can wait. They eliminate any task that is unnecessary. They take interest in very extraordinary things that interest them.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

“Control your own destiny or someone else will.”(Clark Welch)

Start by taking control of your life. Have a clear understanding of what it is you want a clear destination. That way we make sure we are taking the right steps toward the right things. We sometimes work and work we get our selves busy but with all our victories and achievement’s we don’t stop and think is this what I am happy doing is this what I am going to do for the rest of my life. We should take control of our destiny think of our future have a plan of how we want it, instead of waiting for someone to make your future. You create your destiny not others. Don’t let some person your destiny was written already no you create it yourself not some one else.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

“Organize and execute around priorities.”

Put things first that are the most important priorities to your mission, observe the proper balance between production and building production capacity. Recognize the key roles that you take on in life, and make time for each of them. Do what is right for you first think of the things that you need to accomplish first before doing something else. Be positive that what you are doing is important and eliminate what is not. Think about you mission do whatever it takes to get there and go for it but have a plan in case you slip you have a plan be. Set goals that are important and meaningful.

Habit 4: Think win-win

“Think win-win or no deal.”

You must seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial to you.  In cases where there is no win/win achieved you must accept the fact that agreeing to make no win may be the best alternative. You must always reward yourself for a win in behavior as well as others for their efforts.  You must always reward yourself for trying to get the win/win and even more when you do succeed to getting it. Value and respect people by understanding a "win" for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way. In order to establish effective dependent relationships, we must commit to creating Win-Win situations that are equally beneficial and satisfying to each person. In solving for Win-Win, we must consider two things that a person can have respect and courage.

Habit 5: Seeking First to Understand, Then to Be understood

"Diagnose before you prescribe."
First seek to understand the other person, and only then try to be understood.  Effective listening is not simply echoing what the other person has said through the lens of ones own experience. Rather it is putting oneself in the perspective of the other person, listening emphatically for both feeling and meaning. Listen to understand the other person and be listened to later to be understood. understand another persons feelings and emotions. the other person should feel good after being herd and not being judged. Understand how people are to understand yourself in a better way. Be understood by understanding others. Make them feel good.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Four dimensions of self-renewal: Physical, mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional.

What this means is that you should be connected to yourself in many ways and in the four dimensions of self-renewal. You should be happy with yourself and who you are and if you don’t find yourself you will lose yourself and won’t be able to get up. Be true to yourself and others. Also this means to find yourself be someone new what you are really meant to be. The physical dimension meant to care for your body. The mental dimension is one of the most important because you have to maintain high levels of intelligence throughout life. The hardest dimension to do is the spiritual, because it takes time to do and we are mostly busy working or in school. It is hard to take some time to sit and think clearly when you have so much other things blocking you form having a clear mind. The emotional dimension should be easy for you will have to maintain good relationships with others and yourself.

Overall Reflection: My deepest thoughts on this is that these habits clearly will help me on my every day life by applying them in school in my personal life and in work.  I’m responsible for my own unhappiness. Work from the Center of your influence and constantly work to expanding it. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen before taking action.i will start by taking control of my life. Have a clear understanding of what it is I want a clear destination.Put things first that are the most important priorities to my mission, I must seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial to me and the other person.Understand the other person, and only then try to be understood. And most of all always sharpen the saw.

Way to Be

9 ways to be Happy and Make Something of your Life

Gordon B. Hinckley

1.Be Grateful

“Happiness isn’t about getting what you want all the time. It’s about loving what you have and being grateful for it.”

Reflection: if I were not to be grateful for what I have I would not like myself because I am grateful for lots of things my mom and my siblings. I’m grateful for what my mom has given me and all that she has sacrificed for me and my siblings. Being grateful is something that everyone should do because if you not then what are you your just a greedy person make peoples life miserable. Having everything you want is being stingy and not grateful for what already has been given to you. I believe that people that always want to have everything at the cost of every ones expense is not right. I always want something but then again I think do I need I because I see I have something similar. The only time I can get something new is when it doesn’t work and can’t be fixed. So then I now that I have to be grateful for what I have and I am.

2. Be Smart

Reflection: what this means is that to be smart you have to work hard, or in other words you have to push yourself to do what you want but you have to do it in a smart way. Anyone can be smart you just have to believe that you can and you will get there, just don’t lit others tell you otherwise. If you do lit people do that than their probably going to bringing you down and most likely they do that because someone did the same to them. I know that if I am working hard I can accomplish what I put my mind to it. If I let someone tries to bring me down I won’t let them because I believe that if they say I can’t do something I would certainly like to prove them wrong and do exactly what they said I can’t do, if I put my mind to it and I work hard I will get their I just have to think smart and see how I will get there. “Before you can work hard you must to work smart.” By doing exactly that I will be able to do anything I just have to be smart about it. But technically it also means to think clearly about what you are going to do and to do that you have to work hard.

3. Be Involved in Good works

Reflection: being involved in good works is a way of saying sowing kindness to others may give them confidence to get up and do something it can make their day. Being involved in community work is a way to show kindness to others and it can easily make their day better than it was a day ago. To do good works you don’t need to be recognized for your acts but let people see that what you are doing for others is the right thing to do. You don’t need recognition to do a good deed because by helping them out then they can maybe see themselves maybe doing something for other one day as you helped them. “Small acts of kindness go a long way. Your good works could change someone’s day.” Where I can use this is in the future but also in the present day as I wish to help others in need but it doesn’t mean people that can’t help themselves it means people that need help getting back up from where they fell.

4. Be Clean

Reflection: Being clean can mean many things not only cleaning yourself and your room. But having a clean mind, keeping yourself clean of anything bad that you could do or say. “Clean out a corner of your mind and creativity will instantly fill it.” Keeping your mind clean and expand your creativity and working attitudes. Always keeping your mind clean and also prevent you from trying drugs that are band for you. Or going out for a wild party when you know you could be doing something better than drugs and alcohol. So being clean doesn’t mean just having good hygiene but saying away from bad people and thinking clearly that can also mean keeping clean. Doing bad things can make you end up in bad places and I would certainly wouldn’t want to end up in those bad places. If I keep my mind clean I can stay away from bad influences that do those things.


                                                     5. Be True

Reflection: Being true mean to be true to someone and yourself. Being true to your self is not hiding who you are. Be who you are meant to be and not who others want you to be. For example before I always wanted to blend in with the other kids in school I dint want them to now I was different but then the time past and I just could not take it any more I was trying too hard to be someone I wasn’t. I finally I came to understand that it was ok to be different and I was true to myself and to other about who I really was. This part of my past I will never forget I will always remember and I will look to that moment and see how far I came by being true to myself and to others. I believe that being true to yourself will give you confidence to do great things. “Always be true to yourself and others, be yourself because everyone else is already taken.”

6. Be Positive

Reflection: Being positive boosts your self-esteem. Also pushes you to do great things further in your life. Being positive is something people do all the time in their everyday life. Also you have to be positive about your work and your dreams and if for one second you are not positive you will never accomplish those dreams. For example if I were to be positive about my dreams to be an OB/GYN for one second I will never go to the university that I want to go to. I would not be an OB/GYN or at least not the one I was hoping to be if I were to have gone to the University of San Francisco. “No negative thoughts allowed. Think positive, be positive and positive things will happen.” Being positive is having those epic moments happen and great memories not to be ever forgotten. Also what you think negative, negative things will happen. What you think is going to become of you will become true. So think positive and you will have a positive life. The way i will apply this attribute to my life is to think positive about my dreams an they will come true soon enough.

7. Be Humble

Reflection: being humble means having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance. But humble is not the same thing as being wise. When you are being humble you recognize your flaws and being wise is learning from your mistakes. Also being humble means to work hard for what you want in life and if you work hard for the things you want you will accomplish your dreams. Being humble is not sitting around being lazy it is going for want you want and taking a chance. “Stay humble, work hard. Lazy people get nowhere in life, remember that.” The way I would apply being humble to my daily life is by working hard in school so that in the future I will be successful take chances and never give up on my dreams. 

8. Be Still

Reflection: What this means is not to stand or sit on something and not move. It means to stay still and think about your future, your life, your accomplishments, and dreams. For example if I were about to do something that can change my life in a second I would be still for a moment and think about the things that would happen if I were to do something in that instant. I would think about all the negative and positive effects that would happen. “Be still and know that I am god.” What this quote means to me is that you are god you control your destiny your future your life. This also means that you have the chose to do what you want to do and not let anyone push you around. You decide what you want and what the best way to get what I want. A way I will use this attribute is by thinking about the negative effects that I would cause for myself if I were to do something bad or the positive things that would come my way if I were to do good things.

 9. Be prayerful

Reflection nine ways: The nine ways to be happy will help me make my dreams and desires come true without doing anything bad to get them. I feel that if I am grateful for what I have good things will come my way. If I am smart about the choices I make I will be a great person in life. I will be more involved in my community and have a positive attitude when I am doing great things. I will be clean of any drugs well maybe not all drugs and stay away from bad influences. I will be humble of the mistakes I make I will stay true to myself and to anyone around me I will be who I was born to be a great person. I will commit myself to always follow the nine ways to be happy and never give up on my dreams.