The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Habit 1: Be Proactive

“Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all the other habits and that is why it comes first. It says, “I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I’m responsible for my own unhappiness. I am in the driver’s seat of destiny, not just a passenger.”

 Work from the Center of your influence and constantly work to expanding it. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen before taking action. To be proactive is to have self confidence in what you want to do. You do not wait for someone to hand you a job you go and you get it on your own you have to be positive about yourself in order to live life take control. To be proactive is to think of how not to fail have a backup plan don’t let problems arise. Proactive people know what tasks are priorities and which can wait. They eliminate any task that is unnecessary. They take interest in very extraordinary things that interest them.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

“Control your own destiny or someone else will.”(Clark Welch)

Start by taking control of your life. Have a clear understanding of what it is you want a clear destination. That way we make sure we are taking the right steps toward the right things. We sometimes work and work we get our selves busy but with all our victories and achievement’s we don’t stop and think is this what I am happy doing is this what I am going to do for the rest of my life. We should take control of our destiny think of our future have a plan of how we want it, instead of waiting for someone to make your future. You create your destiny not others. Don’t let some person your destiny was written already no you create it yourself not some one else.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

“Organize and execute around priorities.”

Put things first that are the most important priorities to your mission, observe the proper balance between production and building production capacity. Recognize the key roles that you take on in life, and make time for each of them. Do what is right for you first think of the things that you need to accomplish first before doing something else. Be positive that what you are doing is important and eliminate what is not. Think about you mission do whatever it takes to get there and go for it but have a plan in case you slip you have a plan be. Set goals that are important and meaningful.

Habit 4: Think win-win

“Think win-win or no deal.”

You must seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial to you.  In cases where there is no win/win achieved you must accept the fact that agreeing to make no win may be the best alternative. You must always reward yourself for a win in behavior as well as others for their efforts.  You must always reward yourself for trying to get the win/win and even more when you do succeed to getting it. Value and respect people by understanding a "win" for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten his way. In order to establish effective dependent relationships, we must commit to creating Win-Win situations that are equally beneficial and satisfying to each person. In solving for Win-Win, we must consider two things that a person can have respect and courage.

Habit 5: Seeking First to Understand, Then to Be understood

"Diagnose before you prescribe."
First seek to understand the other person, and only then try to be understood.  Effective listening is not simply echoing what the other person has said through the lens of ones own experience. Rather it is putting oneself in the perspective of the other person, listening emphatically for both feeling and meaning. Listen to understand the other person and be listened to later to be understood. understand another persons feelings and emotions. the other person should feel good after being herd and not being judged. Understand how people are to understand yourself in a better way. Be understood by understanding others. Make them feel good.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Four dimensions of self-renewal: Physical, mental, Spiritual, Social/Emotional.

What this means is that you should be connected to yourself in many ways and in the four dimensions of self-renewal. You should be happy with yourself and who you are and if you don’t find yourself you will lose yourself and won’t be able to get up. Be true to yourself and others. Also this means to find yourself be someone new what you are really meant to be. The physical dimension meant to care for your body. The mental dimension is one of the most important because you have to maintain high levels of intelligence throughout life. The hardest dimension to do is the spiritual, because it takes time to do and we are mostly busy working or in school. It is hard to take some time to sit and think clearly when you have so much other things blocking you form having a clear mind. The emotional dimension should be easy for you will have to maintain good relationships with others and yourself.

Overall Reflection: My deepest thoughts on this is that these habits clearly will help me on my every day life by applying them in school in my personal life and in work.  I’m responsible for my own unhappiness. Work from the Center of your influence and constantly work to expanding it. Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen before taking action.i will start by taking control of my life. Have a clear understanding of what it is I want a clear destination.Put things first that are the most important priorities to my mission, I must seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial to me and the other person.Understand the other person, and only then try to be understood. And most of all always sharpen the saw.

Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Dale Carnegie

Principle 1: Do not condemn, complain, or criticize

There is a time and place to bring to bear moral judgment, a form of criticizing that distinguishes between right and wrong.  In doing so, be certain that you have made yourself correct first then criticize through constructive feedback seeking to understand the conditions first. Criticism is pointless because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him attempt to justify himself. Dangerous because it wounds pride, hurts ones sense of importance, and produces resentment. It takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Try to figure out why they do what they do. From a purely selfish position, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others. Give second chances.

Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

“The big secret in dealing with people.”

Reflection: use some common sense by giving people what they desire they will do what you want them to do. So by giving someone what they want or teaching them how to get it they will do what you want them to do in return instead of forcing them to do what you want. People who are capable of seeing another’s perspective and see the inner working of another’s min never have to worry about the future. We have to appreciate our selves first in order to appreciate what others do for us. So when you make someone feel important they will give you something you want in return for the appreciation.

Principle 3: arouse to the other person an eager want.

“He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”

Everyone is only interested in what they want. The only way you can do this is by influencing someone to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. Let’s say tomorrow you want someone to do something for you. You have to pause for a minute before you speak and think about how to make the other person want to do it for you. The people that can do this are very successful in doing so and in doing so they have the world. Why you may ask it simple influencing other people to get what you want is making the other person want to get it for you.

Reflection 

These techniques will help me when I apply them to my daily life. How it will help me by already knows what to do to convince someone to get what I want and in the same way show them how to get what they want. It’s a win for both of us. This will help me by letting me have the world by not criticizing someone because it can make them resent themselves and think that they are not worth it no instead I will listen to what they want and show them how to get it in return I will want something done from them.  I will give second chances to those that have done wrong but they will have to do right by it. My thought about this is that if I use these techniques I will move forward with my life with no trouble.

Winter Break Days

The things that I did during winter break where not much I didn’t go out much the only places I went to were the mall and that is about it nothing interesting. I did watch some movies and shows most of the time on Netflix with my younger brother because I took care of him with my older sister. The movies that I watched were just random movies and I watched many shows on their. My family well my mom, sister, brother, and I really didn’t do much burring the break because my mom is mostly never around so we can’t go anywhere without her also because she is always working. I really wanted to go to big bear but my mom had to go to work the day we were going to go.so the only time we spent time together was when we went shopping and on Christmas we didn’t get any presents but the feeling of being with my family was great.